This is chapter five of my new book, "Daddy, how do you know?" You can read the entire book at I hope you enjoy it and pass it along to other contacts. Please feel free to connect with me. Thanks,

Chapter Five: Your mind and people around you--your environment makes you.

Your mind is special; it is the only mind that thinks like you. I believe everyone’s mind is special, just like snowflakes--every snowflake is different, so is your mind different from everyone else’s. This is OK.

We want to blend in, be like someone, or everyone else. We often want to be different, but the same. This is because we want to belong.

We need other people in our lives. And being the same or different from other people allows us to choose the people we want to spend time with in our lives.

We all want a sense of belonging, and aligning our ideology with others can give a sense of being with someone who cares about us, like a family feeling. Maybe I should be like the athletic star or the pop star. We want to be popular. How do we get to be popular and belong in a certain group? We want to be the same as others, so we blend in with a certain group.

We now get bombarded with commercial messages on how to be popular, how to look successful, how to be part of the “in” crowd. On estimate the average American gets 3000 commercial messages a day in one form or another. I don’t remember most of the messages of yesterday, but my video camera in the brain picked them up.

So we select what we want, and push the rest back into our brain somewhere, perhaps in the sub-conscious recesses of our brains.

How we believe. We observe the world around us, and because the mind is like a video camera recording everything, we cannot keep all of the data in our memory banks to use on a daily basis. We store all of this data in our brains.

From this selection we add meanings to what we have selected and observed. I select from a day I remember seeing a religious symbol, and because I saw this symbol I am moved, so I convert to this religion or decide my religion is just fine. So we draw conclusions from what we select, and we also add meanings.

And then, most importantly, we make assumptions, whether those assumptions are true or not. We believe ourselves, and take personal actions on these beliefs. Maybe we will decide to change or not to change, to keep our religious faith, our political and social values, based on our assumptions.

Do you think these assumptions, conclusions and beliefs are correct?

Do we need to explore our beliefs and see if they are correct and up to date? Can we be a person in the 4th or 5th order of mental development to examine our assumptions, conclusions, and beliefs?

This is the science of epistemology, the difference between knowing something is true and believing something is true.

How do you know that something is true, with all of the change and knowledge exploding in our world?

We have to be aware something we believe now could later be false. How do we deal with something we thought was true, that now is proven to be false? Can we make a law that says this belief will now be true and all ideas that oppose this belief are now false? Can you go to jail for not believing correctly?

Not just worldly issues--the Sun does not revolve around the Earth, the Earth is not flat--but also personal issues--I thought someone loved me, and now I know they do not. I thought I could trust this person and now I know I cannot.

We grow, we accept, we expand our knowledge of the things around us.

I am a member of the “Magic Castle” in Hollywood. I have been taking you there since you were a baby. As you have grown up, your Uncle, also a member of the “Magic Castle,” has taught you magic tricks. These tricks seem real and are very entertaining. But are they real? No, they are tricks that look real. People are fooled by the magic; in life are we not fooled by politicians, religious leaders, community organizers, bosses, and people we trust?

Two magicians, Penn and Teller, have a TV show called, “Bullshit,” and they look for the truth in people and ideas. (This is another program you are not allowed to watch until you get much older, but as you grow up I am sure you will be able to find these shows on DVD or whatever it is called then.)

Examining ideas is a good thing; it is what you will be doing as you grow into the 4th and 5th orders of human mental development.

Experts, the “Who Said’s” of the world, may not have knowledge that is the truth. And remember, the truth changes.

It is not a bad thing, it is just a thing you must remember, and epistemology is the ongoing search between what is real and what is a belief.

Historical Materialism.

Aristotle was a Greek Philosopher who came up with an idea called the dialectic. The concept was easy: when two opposites were exposed there was always a middle that could be discovered.

Hegel, a German Philosopher used the dialectic to show how societies had opposites and progressed forward as a result of this historical materialism.

It is easy to see different societies and how humanity has moved forward in time.

Traditionalism is a word to describe what society was like in the recent past. It looks like the third order of the adult.

If you are part of a group, society, political order you are required to have a like mind. You are required to put the group ahead of your own self. The people in the group will have some common denominator, live in the same place, and do the same things. They will have the same religion, politics, and nationality.

You will have leaders talk about the group’s ideologies. People look for their leaders to have the answers, not have the answers themselves. The third order wants order and answers.

Leaders will want to raise the children of a society, give children the ideas leaders want to promote. Leaders will move to create society’s infrastructures, hospitals, jobs, even thoughts that are supposed to be thought And create wars against people who do not share the same values, or who have natural resources needed to keep the infrastructure working.

Members of this society are looking for leaders they feel will take care of them. The ideas can change based on what is happening in society, the leaders can change, but there is always some kind of leadership in control of the structure of society.

In earlier times moving from one place to another was hard. Transportation was limited. By foot, boat, horse, the number of miles you could travel in a day were very limited. People bloomed where they were planted, as your Great-Grandmother would say. Ideas traveling from other people were very limited. Societies had, in effect, a natural wall around them.

Modernism--where we are and where we are going--what do we have in store for us?

With the invention of the motor vehicle, trains and planes, society was able to move more rapidly over greater distances in a short amount of time, putting strains on traditional society. People moved, and as a result society became more diverse. You were no longer tied down to a single place. Technology and communication began having an impact on how we thought and felt. Radio waves were commercialized, the invention of television. The World Wide Web gave people more ways to have information and communication, true or false.

People stopped trusting leaders as much as in the past. Leaders became harder to identify, employers talked about “owning your work.” As people became more independent, more educated with different ideas, they began questioning what their lives meant.

There were no “self-help” books before the early 1900s. The first self-help book was by an American, Napoleon Hill--“The Laws of Success.” While truly ground breaking at the time, it is probably not a book the average person looking for something to understand their life would now read.

Technology, information, and education began to change and challenge the traditional society. People are looking for answers and often not finding them, or will latch on to an idea, only to discard it when a new idea comes along that looks shinier and brighter.

Disappointment comes more often with our leaders, our employers, and our society. We often feel “over our heads.” What should we do, whom do we trust? Is this all there is to life? We look for uncomplicated answers to extremely difficult situations. We do not like to be on our own. It is difficult to chart our own path, to think for ourselves.

In today’s society, many countries would like to close off information and technology because it threatens their leadership ability. Leaders don’t want people to think independently, or have different ideas that could change the society they lead. Yet time marches on, communication moves forward, technology increases the different ideas and concepts will continue to move forward through different forms of communication. The World Wide Web continues to provide information that is increasingly hard to stop or control.

In today’s world many people feel alienated. They don’t know what the truth is or who is telling the truth and who is not. Does a truth even exist? What and why are we getting worked up about something that may not make any difference a decade from now?

How do we best make decisions, and the decisions we make--how did we come to them? We have less focus on tradition, the old ways are no longer important as we move forward in this global connection which continues to get stronger, despite efforts to stop or curb these technologies and ideas. Pressure is put on leadership, and the old ways slowly fade away to make room for new ideas less comforting.

People want to stay in their comfort zones, but are being forced out; as a result the collective consciousness of people of the world changes and many leaders want to stifle this unenviable march forward.

Life after World War Two is different compared to the ‘60s. In the ‘50s there was “Leave it Beaver;” in the ‘60s, “Free Love.”

The ‘60s “Free Love” gave way to the ‘70s “Disco Fever.”

The ‘80s were the “Material Girls.”

The ‘90s were the decade of cell phones and the Internet.

At the beginning of the 21st Century, search engines were making newspapers and libraries an option. E-mail made personal communication instant.

You could write a book about each decade, as things move faster and faster with technology, science and communications.

While decades may change, look at how centuries change. What was a person’s life like 500 years ago compared to today? Is 500 years such a long time ago in history?

Two very entertaining reads about 500 years ago are Ken Follett’s books “The Pillars of the Earth” and “World Without End.” How would modern people survive in a world of 500 years ago?

How far have we come since 500 years ago, how far have we come in just 100 years, where will we be in another 100 or 500 years?

500 years ago we were Pilgrims and Puritans. 200 years ago we became revolutionaries, idealists; we fought a Civil War in America.

We overcame a Great Depression and fought World Wars less than a hundred years ago.

After the World Wars, Baby Boomers have changed how we see the world and our connection in the world.

And now you, Chance, will be part of the Generation Y.

From Pilgrims to Generation Y in 500 years!

Society changes much faster today than in the past. Today, in the 21st century, we are going to find technology and communication improve and move faster into our world and beliefs.

Wrong or right, some people cling to beliefs and don’t change their mental model. But society does change, beliefs change as a part of the largest whole. The world beliefs change as time marches forward. You, my son, should be aware of this fact.

People do not like change even if it is good. People stay in jobs, marriages, charities, personal relationships, because people do not want to change.

I am not saying that you should change because of change, but you need to be aware of it, so you can make a choice to change with the part of your life that is going to be ever-changing.

Jobs change, bosses in those jobs change, and you need to be aware of the change so you can make a choice to change with the job if you so choose.

Marriage changes; you need to be aware if you decide to get married that the relationship is going to change and you are going to have to change with it.

Personal relationships change, you are going to change, everything around you is going to change and you will have to make choices to change with the growth around you.

We have talked about change, choices, your self-image, mental models, attitude, risk, and a life plan.

Now is the time to look at the “Forward Wheel.”

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Comment by M. Rita Metts on August 25, 2009 at 8:44pm
Thanks for the post. I agree with you 100%. Thanks for reminding us of something we should have been considering all along.
Comment by SANDRA LINDGREN on August 7, 2009 at 1:35am
Well if people thought of that shit years ago, people would be a hell of a lot better off. Because I believe everything you said is true. Great advice.
Comment by Vaughan Jones on August 6, 2009 at 1:16pm
Very good and thought provoking. Well done.

So true, that whatever we think, say and do sets our desitny and our life experience; every moment of every day. And what happens first, before anything else? Thought. Thought is the precursor for everything. We perhaps wonder why people are telling us that the mind - thought - can be, and is, so powerful. Thought sets the reality of every moment of one's life. Your life is the result of what you think, why you think it, and how you think it.

Vaughan. One for All - All for One
Comment by Thelma Davidson on August 6, 2009 at 10:25am
Hello all:
I wanted to share this with you because it was sent to me by someone I don't even know, someone whose email addresss I did not even recognize, I almost deleted it but something told me to read it so I did.
That morning when I woke up, I was in despair, I did not know how I was going to fix a problem that I had, I came to work and here was this email, I read it, cried and felt like a burden was lifted from my shoulders, I felt like there was no problem that I could not fix at that moment. I was able to see my way for the first time in weeks. Belief..

Relax your mind and humble your heart to focus on Christ. Allow God to be the only person on your mind while you read this prayer. If we can take the time to read long
jokes, stories, etc., we should give the same respect to this prayer. Friends, who pray together, stay together.
If you pray this prayer, change the number in the subject box before forwarding the message so people can SEE how many people have done so.
> Dear Lord, I thank you for this day. I thank You for my being able to see and to hear this morning. I'm blessed because You are a forgiving God and an understanding God. You have done so much for me and You keep on blessing me. Forgive me this day for everything I have done, said or thought that was not pleasing to you. I ask now for Your forgiveness.
> Please keep me safe from all danger and harm. Help me to start this day
> with a new attitude and plenty of gratitude. Let me make the best of each and every day to clear my mind so tha t I can hear from You.
> Please broaden my mind that I can accept all things.
> Let me not whine and whimper over things I have no control over. Let me continue to see sin through God's eyes and acknowledge it as evil. And when I sin, let me repent, and confess with my mouth my wrongdoing, and receive the forgiveness of God..
> And when this world closes in on me, let me remember Jesus' example -- to slip away and find a quiet place to pray. It's the best response when I'm pushed beyond my limits. I know that when I can't pray, You listen to my heart. Continue to use me to do Your will.
> Continue to bless me that I may be a blessing to others. Keep me strong that I may help the weak. Keep me uplifted that I may have words of encouragement for others. I pray for those who are lost and can't find their way. I pray for those who are misjudged and misunderstood. I pray for those who don't know You intimately. I pray for those who will delete this without sharing it w ith others. I pray for those who don't believe.
> But I thank you that I believe..
> I believe that God changes people and God changes things. I pray for all my sisters and brothers. For each and every family member in their households. I pray for peace, love and joy in their homes that they are out of debt and all their needs are met.
> I pray that every eye that reads this knows there is no problem, circumstance, or situation greater than God. Every battle is in Your hands for You to fight. I pray that these words be received into the hearts of every eye that sees them and every mouth that
> confesses them willingly..
> This is my prayer.
> In Jesus' Name, Amen.
> Pass this message to as much people you can, except you and me.
> Don't ignore and God will bless you. Know that you are already blessed by the person who sent this to you
Comment by Barbara Babcock on August 5, 2009 at 3:57pm
Wow, that is definately food for thought. Things change so often these days. Scientists & doctors learn new things all the time that change the "truths" we once thought. There is one thing only in the world that has always been truth & always will be truth to the end, & that is the word of the Lord & Jesus Christ. He is the one that makes all these discoveries possible. Keeps us moving forward. Some miracles or magic can happen if you only believe! Keep your thoughts & your actions possitive.
Comment by Pamela E Miller on August 5, 2009 at 5:55am
I absolute agree Dorella! I have found that magical things happen if you believe they can! My husband keeps telling me, Pam, there is no magic way of selling your art work. You've tried new things and with this economy you just arent going to make sales.

Of course, my husband always gives me good advice but in this I choose to ignore him. He is predisposed to only believeing things that are scientifically proven and he has no sales and marketing experience..LOL..sure we all have one of those in our family.

Thus, I am a new member of this group looking to grow my business and meet new people:) To take a look at my website (which is still in baby stages..brand new) go to
Comment by Dorella Rosi on August 5, 2009 at 4:58am
"Our thoughts, feelings, words, and actions are all forms of energy. What we think, feel, say, and do in each moment comes back to us to create our realities. Energy moves in a circle, so what goes around comes around. The combined thoughts, feelings, words and actions of everyone on the planet creates our collective consciousness, it creates the world we see before us".

Drs. Milanovich and McCune
Comment by Steve Orris on August 4, 2009 at 4:56pm
Change will always come.
No matter who you vote for.
We will like some change.
We will not like other change.
Something to think about:
Will your environment change you?
Or will you change your environment?

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