Are you succeeding in your online business and losing your life?

Are you succeeding in your online business and losing your life?

Are you…
• writing a daily blog and creating a following?
• responding to all your emails?
• creating and joining online groups?
• offering and attending teleseminars and webinars?
• travelling to social business building events?
• building your lists and updating your automatic responses?
• creating a regularly published newsletter?
• submitting articles to online article sites?
• writing and publishing books and ebooks?
• mentoring your followers and downlines?
• offering live seminars?
• seeking joint ventures and affiliate marketing opportunities?
• stayng up late and waking up early to get all your tasks done?
• writing lists and crossing off items as you complete them?
• thinking and talking about your business all the time?

If you have answered “Yes” to several of these questions, you are on your way to becoming a social business network workaholic. Hopefully, with all that time and attention and hard work, your business is now booming. But what is happening to the rest of your life?

If you are married or living with a significant other, have you ignored your partner’s requests for attention, affection and quality time together? If you have children too, have they been clinging to you or avoiding you when you tell them not to disturb you while you work a little bit more?

If you are single, have you dated anyone lately or have you just put your entire social life on hold? Do you cut your phone conversations short and only arrange for brief social contacts before getting back to your computer? And, to me one of the worst offenses, do you find yourself talking on your cell phone, texting or reading your emails – while you are sitting in a restaurant or at a social event with a date or your current life partner?

In this 21st century, and now even more so during this economic downturn, many of us are spending more time focused on business and less time smelling the roses, enjoying companionship, or relaxing with our loved ones. And this is taking a toll on our relationships. If you have been expecting your partner to be supportive, to understand what you are attempting to accomplish, and to be there when you feel you have reached your goals, think again. Workaholism and lack of nurturing in a relationship will almost inevitably lead to relationship disaster.

Yes, of course, for a certain period of time at the early stages of building a business, you may have to spend a great deal of your time and energy focused solely on the details of your business. However, as soon as you get a slight breather, as soon as you have a spare moment, put your focus and attention back onto those you love, those with whom you hope to share you business success.

Don’t become another statistic of someone who has succeeded in business, but lost their family and friends and life, in the process.

For a personal consultation, contact DrErica at http://www.budurl.com/Wellness or at http://www.budurl.com/Reawakening. Right now, you can discover how well you are balancing the many aspecrs of your own life. Take the Create Healing and Love Now Personal Assessment and receive your customized free report at http://www.budurl.com/Createloveheal. Keep your eyes open for the Create Healing and Love Now Seminars, coming to South Florida in July 2009, to personally assist you to balance all the areas of your life as you heal and create more love.

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Comment by MARY MCKINNEY on July 6, 2009 at 1:35am: I find it very enlightening to take a day or two off from the internet to spend with family.
Family makes life worth living!

Comment by Daniel P. Cwiak on July 3, 2009 at 10:59pm: Excellent blog. I have never wanted to be one of the people who puts work before family, but have done so in the past. I was very young and naive. It cost me two years of my life, a marriage, a mountain of debt, and nearly my life. If it hadn't of been for two poeple in my life, I would not be here today.
Since that time I have looked at many different opportunities, worked hard at doing my job, and have always tried to look at things from the other guys' point of view. However, I will never again sacrifice my personal life or that of my family just to get ahead of the next person.
I've been down that road and found only desolation at the end of it. I was fortunate enough to have friends who cared, but never realized it until I was at the brink. Only with their help was I able to keep my life, and I thank God everyday for them being there when I needed them.

Comment by A. Evan Raoof on July 3, 2009 at 8:14am: good artlicle ..it is hard to set limits but you have to make that a priority

Comment by Yvonne Finn on July 2, 2009 at 7:11pm: Good observations and insights, Dr. Goodstone!
We have all heard that we must aim for balance, but so many of fall short time and again and put of doing what we know is the only realistic way to achieve the "good life".
The thing is no one else can do it for us or give us permission to do so.
We must make up our minds to create this all important change for ourselves.
Great blog!
Yvonne Finn

Comment by Jonathan Bradley on July 2, 2009 at 5:24am: Great blog and it can be very true. The best question to ask yourself is "Who are you doing it for?" If you are sloggin away trying to create a better future for yourself and your family, just remember that the future is uncertain and none of know how long wre have got!
If you have the right mindset as outlined by the 'Law of attraction' and add it to being self disciplined, it is not hard to be there for those close to you as well as providing for them. I have a wife and 3 kids, I tend to spend as much time with them than I do working, which is great. This is me (sorry about the sound quality, this was an adhoc vid) - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q-YS7rnrQjY

Comment by Matt on July 1, 2009 at 9:37pm: Hard work is so important but a loving family to share the success with is priceless. Great post Dr. Goodstone, thank you!!

Comment by Veejay on July 1, 2009 at 5:40pm: Yes, I'm guilty - and it's not only my relationship which is suffering but my weight and my legs with all this sitting, not to mention my eyes getting tired from staring at the screen and further more I don't sleep 'cos it's all still whirling around in my brain! Well - I think I have one!

Comment by Anginetta Walker on July 1, 2009 at 5:12pm: Some people dont realize this until its too late. Thanks

Comment by Ayodeji Dikio on July 1, 2009 at 12:36pm: I think I can answer yes to a lot of those questions. That is one of the reasons why I fear having to work from home. Working from homes makes it extremely difficult to leave your work in the office because the office is in the home. Luckily I am able to abstain from doing anything work related once I leave the office.
Kudos to you for writing this post. Reading articles like this every now and then help to give us a reality check and re-prioritize.

Ayodeji Dikio

Comment by Dr. Erica Goodstone on July 1, 2009 at 9:44am: Michael, I have jumped into this online frenzy and been completely overwhelmed and pressured, thinking I had to understand it all and get it all working perfectly - immediately. I have learned to slow down and just continue taking small steps toward my goals.