Are you succeeding in your online business and losing your life?

Are you succeeding in your online business and losing your life?

Are you…
• writing a daily blog and creating a following?
• responding to all your emails?
• creating and joining online groups?
• offering and attending teleseminars and webinars?
• travelling to social business building events?
• building your lists and updating your automatic responses?
• creating a regularly published newsletter?
• submitting articles to online article sites?
• writing and publishing books and ebooks?
• mentoring your followers and downlines?
• offering live seminars?
• seeking joint ventures and affiliate marketing opportunities?
• stayng up late and waking up early to get all your tasks done?
• writing lists and crossing off items as you complete them?
• thinking and talking about your business all the time?

If you have answered “Yes” to several of these questions, you are on your way to becoming a social business network workaholic. Hopefully, with all that time and attention and hard work, your business is now booming. But what is happening to the rest of your life?

If you are married or living with a significant other, have you ignored your partner’s requests for attention, affection and quality time together? If you have children too, have they been clinging to you or avoiding you when you tell them not to disturb you while you work a little bit more?

If you are single, have you dated anyone lately or have you just put your entire social life on hold? Do you cut your phone conversations short and only arrange for brief social contacts before getting back to your computer? And, to me one of the worst offenses, do you find yourself talking on your cell phone, texting or reading your emails – while you are sitting in a restaurant or at a social event with a date or your current life partner?

In this 21st century, and now even more so during this economic downturn, many of us are spending more time focused on business and less time smelling the roses, enjoying companionship, or relaxing with our loved ones. And this is taking a toll on our relationships. If you have been expecting your partner to be supportive, to understand what you are attempting to accomplish, and to be there when you feel you have reached your goals, think again. Workaholism and lack of nurturing in a relationship will almost inevitably lead to relationship disaster.

Yes, of course, for a certain period of time at the early stages of building a business, you may have to spend a great deal of your time and energy focused solely on the details of your business. However, as soon as you get a slight breather, as soon as you have a spare moment, put your focus and attention back onto those you love, those with whom you hope to share you business success.

Don’t become another statistic of someone who has succeeded in business, but lost their family and friends and life, in the process.

For a personal consultation, contact DrErica at http://www.budurl.com/Wellness or at http://www.budurl.com/Reawakening. Right now, you can discover how well you are balancing the many aspecrs of your own life. Take the Create Healing and Love Now Personal Assessment and receive your customized free report at http://www.budurl.com/Createloveheal. Keep your eyes open for the Create Healing and Love Now Seminars, coming to South Florida in July 2009, to personally assist you to balance all the areas of your life as you heal and create more love.

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Comment by Timothy Kendrick on June 30, 2009 at 4:27pm: Wealth and what it brings is best fleeting. Of course you must define what Wealth is to you much the same way you define what Success means to you.

Let's go way back to 1923. A small group of the world's wealthiest men met at the Edgewater Beach Hotel In Chicago Illinois.

They were the "Who's Who" of Wealth and Power. These men controlled more money that the total amount of the U.S. Treasury.

Here is the List of who they were and what happened to them because of their belief systems, priorities, and yes lack of focus on their families

Charles Schwab: President of the largest independent steel company - died broke

Arthur Cutten: greatest of the wheat speculators - died abroad penniless

Richard Witney: President of the NYSE - After a stay in Sing Sing died shortly after his release

Albert Fall: member of a U.S. President's Cabinet- was pardoned from prison so he could die at home (alone)

Jess Livermore: greatest "Bear" on Wall Street - committed suicide “There was a leather-bound memo book found in Mr. Livermore's pocket. It was addressed to his wife.” A police spokesman read from the notebook: “My dear Nina: Can’t help it. Things have been bad with me. I am tired of fighting. Can’t carry on any longer. This is the only way out. I am unworthy of your love. I am a failure. I am truly sorry, but this is the only way out for me. Love Laurie”. He could not communicate with the ones he loved

Leon Fraser: President of the Bank of International Settlements - Committed suicide (alone)

Ivan Kreuger: Head of the world's greatest Monopoly - Committed Suicide. (Ivar Kreuger never married but lived for many years in different periods with Ingeborg Eberth (1889-1977)

They met the first time in 1913. According to the book she wrote in 1932 after Ivars death, about the time together with Ivar, he was not interested in a marriage and have children, and very much focused in his business

Now for every one of these "Barons" I know there are many who could communicate positively with themselves and their families. It just comes down to defining success, your own personal success, for me, I am grateful for my family and my books. They (my books) don't all sell a zillion copies but every action we take matters and I know that the right people read them at the right time and none of will ever know the results of that one action we take.

BECAUSE EVERY ACTION YOU TAKE MATTERS TO YOU, YOUR FAMILY AND THE UNIVERSE!!!

Comment by Lisa Stadtmueller on June 30, 2009 at 4:17pm: I have been accused of being a workaholic for a few years now in my 8-year marriage....I am trying to slow down and take more time away from work. Not hard to do with 2 small kids, who let me know if I'm on the computer too much....kids are so honest! The hard part for me is finding a balance.

Comment by Warren E Goodenow on June 30, 2009 at 4:06pm: Another great blog, Dr Goodstone. Do you have time to actually pursue your practice? I'm doing most of the things you suggest above. It takes a great deal of time, but I'm meeting a lot of great people.

Comment by AGUSTIN DIAZ SARAVIA on June 30, 2009 at 4:00pm: MUCHISIMAS GRACIAS POR LA INVITACION CUIDENCE MUCHO

Comment by Paul anthony Rivers on June 30, 2009 at 3:49pm: Thank God I was born with a tremendous SEX DRIVE. Also, I LOVE what I do. These are the most powerful forces in humans. It took years to coorindinate these forces in the success of my business. My family is the extension of me and there's room to share this experience. We all have to live our life and our dreams. Each individual must have that in order to share with their love ones. Balance is something we have to learn to do. We all wasn't born walking. We fell down a few times before we start walking.

Comment by Meditations by Matthew on June 30, 2009 at 3:32pm: Yeah for Family... always number one.

Comment by Charlene L. Ragsdale on June 30, 2009 at 3:15pm

We all have been where you have described....it's a hazard of owning a business. We become Workaholics. However, the beauty is we can control our time, our lives and how we spend our time. We control our time - not the almighty dollar controlling us.

Great Blog - you are by far, my favorite Star.tup.biz blogger!

All the Best,

Charlene L. Ragsdale - Las Vegas, NV
“Proper Business with a Purpose”

Recent Winner of the Star.tup.biz $1000 Giveaway!

Comment by Rev. Philipp J. Kessler on June 30, 2009 at 2:42pm: Wow! You pretty described me when I ran a convenience store. We were what you call an 18 hour store. Opened at 5am and closed at Midnight. I would be there from 4 or 4:30am till about 8 or 10pm at least twice a week. The days I didn't put in double shifts at the store I was running around doing drop-in inspections at my store or another in the district. And it wasn't because my employees couldn't handle things, it was because I felt I needed to be there. Did it effect my relationship with my SO....not really, we were already on our way out when I got the position. If anything it gave me something to do when did split over other issues.

What do I do today? I still throw myself into my work, and with being an online business it is even harder. I do not have internet from home. So I have to run to a local cafe or visit a friend. I find it rude of me to go visit a friend, so I sometimes spend up to 8 hours at a cafe doing my online stuff. Which means that I neglect things at home. Thank the Gods I do not have children or an SO right now, but the poor cats get rather upset with me... :)

Comment by Beverly Zerbian on June 30, 2009 at 2:33pm: Great Points! I feel that you have to set yur priorities, Family should be yur first priority, Career second, if your not religious. Of course if you are then, God is first, family next and then your career. You can not allowyourself to be so consumed that you loose focus on life.

Comment by Kristen Scott on June 30, 2009 at 2:00pm: Balance is a difficult thing to achieve. It takes discipline and organization to make sure you have a life....you only get one, don't let it slip by you.