Are you succeeding in your online business and losing your life?

Are you succeeding in your online business and losing your life?

Are you…
• writing a daily blog and creating a following?
• responding to all your emails?
• creating and joining online groups?
• offering and attending teleseminars and webinars?
• travelling to social business building events?
• building your lists and updating your automatic responses?
• creating a regularly published newsletter?
• submitting articles to online article sites?
• writing and publishing books and ebooks?
• mentoring your followers and downlines?
• offering live seminars?
• seeking joint ventures and affiliate marketing opportunities?
• stayng up late and waking up early to get all your tasks done?
• writing lists and crossing off items as you complete them?
• thinking and talking about your business all the time?

If you have answered “Yes” to several of these questions, you are on your way to becoming a social business network workaholic. Hopefully, with all that time and attention and hard work, your business is now booming. But what is happening to the rest of your life?

If you are married or living with a significant other, have you ignored your partner’s requests for attention, affection and quality time together? If you have children too, have they been clinging to you or avoiding you when you tell them not to disturb you while you work a little bit more?

If you are single, have you dated anyone lately or have you just put your entire social life on hold? Do you cut your phone conversations short and only arrange for brief social contacts before getting back to your computer? And, to me one of the worst offenses, do you find yourself talking on your cell phone, texting or reading your emails – while you are sitting in a restaurant or at a social event with a date or your current life partner?

In this 21st century, and now even more so during this economic downturn, many of us are spending more time focused on business and less time smelling the roses, enjoying companionship, or relaxing with our loved ones. And this is taking a toll on our relationships. If you have been expecting your partner to be supportive, to understand what you are attempting to accomplish, and to be there when you feel you have reached your goals, think again. Workaholism and lack of nurturing in a relationship will almost inevitably lead to relationship disaster.

Yes, of course, for a certain period of time at the early stages of building a business, you may have to spend a great deal of your time and energy focused solely on the details of your business. However, as soon as you get a slight breather, as soon as you have a spare moment, put your focus and attention back onto those you love, those with whom you hope to share you business success.

Don’t become another statistic of someone who has succeeded in business, but lost their family and friends and life, in the process.

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Comment by william clements on June 30, 2009 at 11:42am: Dr. Erica,

Wow, I think you just gave the definition of (me) William Richard Clements....lol!

I am a workaholic and know it but in this chapter in my life is about all I do have left. I lost all but one really good friend a while ago and did not figure out why till it was to late. Then my business caused family problems not to long ago but I am in the process of restoring that problem and spending some more time with my mom. This means when I am back on the computer I am 10 times busier than I used to be with checking emails, phone calls, and teaching. I found a program that is a training course to teach people how to make money online and this is one way I offer my team training which takes a little bit of the work off my shoulder but I do still teach its just not so much time consuming as it was before than.

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Comment by DERICK POLK on June 30, 2009 at 11:06am: I totally agree and I have found the best way to avoid the problem is to set limits as to how much time and effort I spend working even if it means I may miss an opportunity I feel there will always be another one on the horizon.

Comment by Evg. Janice De'Bose Jackson on June 30, 2009 at 10:55am: Well; I am actually in the process of re-focus regarding education and I am not actually participating in as much as I would like to in terms of life outside the church, job and adult children. But as the end of this year comes to a close I do see myself setting the plan on paper to do more outside of these areas. I do have a purpose and that is to concentrate more in the new year on other activities of business and networking with consistency. We'll see! Like Cassandra I am in purpose to find my full balance. Peace!

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Comment by Laila on June 30, 2009 at 10:53am: Another great article, Dr. Goodstone!

It is true that, in the beginning, when you are first learning the ropes of your business, you have to focus a lot of your time and energy on your business, but if you do find that the all-consuming portion of your business extends past a year or two...maybe you should look at what activities you are doing.

There are certain things that help build your business, and others that keep you busy without increasing your income. The trick is to recognize the difference.

It is very important to set "shop hours" and stick to them, and to let your loved ones know when you are available for social engagements, and MAKE SOME FUN PLANS, so that you don't end up sitting in front of the computer on your "down time".

Thanks for the articulate reminder to take care of the important stuff.
Cheers,
Laila
www.greenMOMteam.com

Comment by Cassandra Clifford on June 30, 2009 at 10:47am: Sadly I fall in to way too many of the above, and have found myself one day wanting to go out and realized the only people I had around me were work related and the few who were not were just shallow people I blew off steam with once in a while. I am trying to find my balance again, and while not there yet, I am thinking it may come in forcing myself to do another activity and not one at all related to work, which is difficult since work is my life. However I think sports, languages, music or something may be the answer.

Comment by Peter Foreman on June 30, 2009 at 10:36am: Very true, although not really a feature of social networking itself, but of focus onthe wrong things.

It used to be called "richest man in the graveyard syndrome" (sorry about the sexist "man", but in those days it usually was!!)

Peter