Do you think Self Esteem Plays a Role in Success?

I wanted to share some insights from one of the audio lessons from a tremendous new mentor and mastermind for me named Bill Bartmann "The Billionaire Business Coach". He is the only self made Billionaire with a B who has exclusively devoted his life to teaching others. With that kind of a resume, I thought it would be worthwhile to listen to what he has to say on my iLearningGlobal audio library. He also has some great HD video's as well. I absolutely love his teaching style as well as his content is amazing and extremely insightful! Bill is only one of the many "rich" resources within iLearningGlobal (ILG). For today's post and wanted to share with you some of my insights on his lesson on self esteem and how that effects how we process information and how that relates to some other great lessons from by dear friend Bela and her tremendous book "A Bella Life" and of course the "The Go-Giver " by Bob Burg and John David Mann.

First, let's look at the "4 Laws of Self Esteem": as related by Bill Bartmann

1. There is a principle of survival
2. The subconscious mind is stronger than the conscious mind.
3. Our subconscious will not let us do something it thinks we are incapable of doing.
4. Our subconscious will either help us or hinder us based on the information it retrieves.

The next law I'd like to share is from "The Go-Giver". The 4th Law of Stratospheric Success is the Law of Authenticity: "The most valuable gift you have to offer is yourself."

Finally I'd like to share a truly inspiring quote from Bela's book, "A Bella Life."

"Think about a dark room. The minute any little bit of light is brought in, the room is no longer dark - the light overpowers the darkness. I want you to choose light, not darkness. I want the beautiful pure light within all of us to spread through the universe creating an abundance of love, happiness, kindness, and peace for all - creating a bright bella life for everyone!"

I'm blessed to have each of these tremendous people in my life as a mentor and feel like I "know" them all either through facebook, phone discussions or the power of ILG. It struck me that the common thread between all of these is our emotional personal intention and how that relates to what it directs our subconscious mind to think and therefore do. Have you ever heard a song on the radio and instantly you're transported back in time to an event that you had linked this song with or "assigned" a memory to it? Its very powerful! It could have been 20 years ago and yet in that moment, you are instantly engulfed in that moment again...you remember what you were wearing, the scent of his or her perfume/cologne, the emotions that you felt...good or bad. I know I have several songs like that for me.

Then it hit me after listening to Bill's lesson, I remember these things so vividly because I first chose to assign a meaning to it for the good or bad..(light or dark). I then allowed this raw emotion of what I believe to be my true authentic self to add power to the meaning of this event. Ultimately as a result of this "emotional programming", my subconscious mind takes over and tells me how to interpret future events based on its immediate retrieval of this assigned emotional meaning.

Even if an event occurs that is one that you'd normally interpret as negative, if your positive intention is emotionally authentic , even though you don't necessarily "feel" it, eventually your subconscious will accept it as "true" for the ultimate good because that's how you've reprogrammed it to be. Ever hear the quote "Whether you think you can or you think you can't you're right?" I know this to be true more than ever! Whew, that's deep! Being the Pisces that I am, I'm very in touch with my emotions. I've been pondering how do I use this insight for my ultimate good and growth and positive impact on others. Here's what I've concluded with this end goal in mind: If I want to continually grow and advance, I must purposefully choose to assign a positive emotional meaning to each event so that I can be sure that the programming being sent to my subconscious mind will result in the desired answer/action I'm looking for. ..or as in the words of Obama, "Yes we can!!!" There is definitely something to that :)

I encourage us all to pay more attention to the messages that we allow ourselves to accept as true and what meaning we choose to assign to them and how that in turn determines what we believe is our ultimate power to accomplish what our mind conceives. We can't accomplish "big" things if we don't allow ourselves to think big! Now that's powerful!

"No one can make you feel inferior without your permission." Eleanor Roosevelt

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Comment by MARY MCKINNEY on July 6, 2009 at 2:07am: I believe self esteem can make or break a person as well as anything the person attempts to do.
Without self esteem, there is no confidence, without confidence there can be no new positive experiences. Without experiences, there can be no learning. Without learning, we are just a lifeless vegetable, just going through the motions.

Comment by Matt on July 1, 2009 at 9:38pm: Self esteem is so important since it is conveyed in all we do. The unspoken words through our actions and the way we carry ourselves have a profound impact on a business. Great post Amy, thank you my friend.

Comment by Shawnasie Shear on June 27, 2009 at 5:39pm: It definitely plays a major role in success. My success is growing along with my self-esteem. I am constantly working on personal development and I believe everyone should. The power of one's thoughts and feelings is overwhelming! Make it a GREAT day! I am.

Comment by Eric Tompkins on June 27, 2009 at 3:57pm: While self esteem is important, studies have shown that charisma is typically the better indicator of success. Why? Because success usually requires that indviduals be engaging and fascinating. So who do we find to be fascinating? Again, studies show that the most fascinating individuals in our lives are the people that ask questions about other people. Even I have found this to be the case. The next time you are at a networking function, don't sell yourself. Don't hand out your business cards. Instead, engage individuals and keep your conversations focused on what it is they do. Collect their business cards, and then follow up with a nice note.

Eric Tompkins
Tompkins Consulting Group

Comment by EntrepreneursCoachGarethEmberton on June 27, 2009 at 1:11pm: In entrepreneurs it is fundimental. If you dont have strong self esteem and self worth you are not attractive therefore you will not attract customers, team and opportunities.

There is something else you have to believe in what you do and have fun doing it....from this conviction will grow if self esteem growing....I see so many people trying to run businesses that they don't enjoy or saying things like they are in business for 'passive income'.....business is a game.....play it and with that your strngths will grow and your weaknesses will disappear..

Self esteem and self worth are viatal

Comment by Veejay on June 27, 2009 at 5:53am: Yes, I have special songs which take me back to a particular moment in time - but I attribute them to beautiful memories ( happy or sad), and can't quite see the connection to self esteem. I am afraid your blog is a little too deep for me, though I do believe that self esteem plays a major part in our lives, and those who do not have it must make an effort to better themselves until they can hold their head up with pride = self esteem.

Comment by Mohamad Sanip Bin Ali on June 27, 2009 at 1:30am: It is a great write-up. I enjoy reading it (*_*)

Comment by Sean J. Kennedy on June 26, 2009 at 6:20am: we can't create anything greater or less than ourselves so yes absolutely how we feel about ourselves will be directly correlated to our level of self-actualization, hence success!

Comment by Wendi Gordon on June 26, 2009 at 2:15am: Self-esteem is essential for both personal happiness and professional success. It is especially critical for sole proprietors because if we don't believe in our selves, our competence, and the value of what we have to offer (our product or service) we won't be able to market effectively or have the confidence to write, lead workshops, or coach others. It's hard to get others to believe in you when you don't believe in yourself!

I also agree with Rob, though - financial success is only one part of success, and ultimately not what is most important. Feeling good about who you are (and WHOSE you are; I am also a Christian) and what you do matters a lot more than making a lot of money. I don't think the two are mutually exclusive - most wealthy people love what they do and it shows - but no amount of cash or other perks is worth compromising your basic values and treating people as commodities to be used.

Comment by james powers on June 26, 2009 at 12:18am: yes, self esteem plays a role in success and everyday because its how you perceive yourself with it