Do you think Self Esteem Plays a Role in Success?

I wanted to share some insights from one of the audio lessons from a tremendous new mentor and mastermind for me named Bill Bartmann "The Billionaire Business Coach". He is the only self made Billionaire with a B who has exclusively devoted his life to teaching others. With that kind of a resume, I thought it would be worthwhile to listen to what he has to say on my iLearningGlobal audio library. He also has some great HD video's as well. I absolutely love his teaching style as well as his content is amazing and extremely insightful! Bill is only one of the many "rich" resources within iLearningGlobal (ILG). For today's post and wanted to share with you some of my insights on his lesson on self esteem and how that effects how we process information and how that relates to some other great lessons from by dear friend Bela and her tremendous book "A Bella Life" and of course the "The Go-Giver " by Bob Burg and John David Mann.

First, let's look at the "4 Laws of Self Esteem": as related by Bill Bartmann

1. There is a principle of survival
2. The subconscious mind is stronger than the conscious mind.
3. Our subconscious will not let us do something it thinks we are incapable of doing.
4. Our subconscious will either help us or hinder us based on the information it retrieves.

The next law I'd like to share is from "The Go-Giver". The 4th Law of Stratospheric Success is the Law of Authenticity: "The most valuable gift you have to offer is yourself."

Finally I'd like to share a truly inspiring quote from Bela's book, "A Bella Life."

"Think about a dark room. The minute any little bit of light is brought in, the room is no longer dark - the light overpowers the darkness. I want you to choose light, not darkness. I want the beautiful pure light within all of us to spread through the universe creating an abundance of love, happiness, kindness, and peace for all - creating a bright bella life for everyone!"

I'm blessed to have each of these tremendous people in my life as a mentor and feel like I "know" them all either through facebook, phone discussions or the power of ILG. It struck me that the common thread between all of these is our emotional personal intention and how that relates to what it directs our subconscious mind to think and therefore do. Have you ever heard a song on the radio and instantly you're transported back in time to an event that you had linked this song with or "assigned" a memory to it? Its very powerful! It could have been 20 years ago and yet in that moment, you are instantly engulfed in that moment again...you remember what you were wearing, the scent of his or her perfume/cologne, the emotions that you felt...good or bad. I know I have several songs like that for me.

Then it hit me after listening to Bill's lesson, I remember these things so vividly because I first chose to assign a meaning to it for the good or bad..(light or dark). I then allowed this raw emotion of what I believe to be my true authentic self to add power to the meaning of this event. Ultimately as a result of this "emotional programming", my subconscious mind takes over and tells me how to interpret future events based on its immediate retrieval of this assigned emotional meaning.

Even if an event occurs that is one that you'd normally interpret as negative, if your positive intention is emotionally authentic , even though you don't necessarily "feel" it, eventually your subconscious will accept it as "true" for the ultimate good because that's how you've reprogrammed it to be. Ever hear the quote "Whether you think you can or you think you can't you're right?" I know this to be true more than ever! Whew, that's deep! Being the Pisces that I am, I'm very in touch with my emotions. I've been pondering how do I use this insight for my ultimate good and growth and positive impact on others. Here's what I've concluded with this end goal in mind: If I want to continually grow and advance, I must purposefully choose to assign a positive emotional meaning to each event so that I can be sure that the programming being sent to my subconscious mind will result in the desired answer/action I'm looking for. ..or as in the words of Obama, "Yes we can!!!" There is definitely something to that :)

I encourage us all to pay more attention to the messages that we allow ourselves to accept as true and what meaning we choose to assign to them and how that in turn determines what we believe is our ultimate power to accomplish what our mind conceives. We can't accomplish "big" things if we don't allow ourselves to think big! Now that's powerful!

"No one can make you feel inferior without your permission." Eleanor Roosevelt

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Comment by kichaimsten on June 24, 2009 at 4:13pm: Hi Amy! Great post! You obviously know quite a bit about Self-Esteem. My take on the subject of Self-Esteem is that we all have differing levels of self-esteem because of the environment we grew up with and the experiences we have had. Low self-esteem is a judgment call that must be qualified by a comparison to something else , ie: another person, the level we had yesterday, or last year, etc. But, having said that, does our level of self-esteem affect how well we will do in our business? Absolutely it will. Those with "low self-esteem will not be as self-motivated to excellence as those with "high" self-esteem. If excellence in any pursuit is the real objective, then we all may want to consider whatever resources there are to raise the level of self-esteem we are experiencing or exhibiting.

Again, Good post!

Ki/Carl

Comment by Pat Bosman on June 24, 2009 at 4:13pm: I agree that self esteem is one of the most important ingredients to success the other is having the passion about what it is you do to achieve your dreams. Do not listen to what society says or wants, it is all about you.

Be inspired to achieve your dreams

Regards

Pat

Comment by Kristen Scott on June 24, 2009 at 4:12pm: I agree with Rob. A servant's heart will lead to very high self esteem! Make it your life goal to serve others and success is inevitable.

Comment by graham constantine on June 24, 2009 at 4:09pm: I went to an interesting talk by Malcolm Gladwell last night (author of the tipping point, blink and outliers) in Brighton, England. He spoke for over an hour on the "reasons" as he sees them for the current global financial problems and mentioned the "zone of optimum delusion". Apparently based on some research by cognitive psychologists when people acquire more information they become more confident in their predictions but no more accurate. So, according to Malcolm, there is an optimum level of self-esteem (or confidence) and a level of over confidence where by having apparently "all" the information people make more mistakes as they become "blind" to new information, so certain are they of their predictions. So what I concluded from his talk and from my own experience is that confidence or self esteem is good in the right measure.
Warm regards
Graham.
Business NLP Brighton

Comment by Carol A. Briney on June 24, 2009 at 4:09pm: Raising Self-Esteem

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High self-esteem is a critical factor that can positively affect many areas of your life. On the other hand, if you have low self-esteem, it will act as a constant challenge . . . a hurdle you have to jump over each time you want to try something new, a constant force dragging you down.

While self-esteem can be difficult to change, it's not impossible. We've come up with a few time-tested tips for improving your self-esteem, and feeling better and more positive about yourself on a daily basis. Here are a few ideas:

* Make a list of things you like about yourself – and refer back to it often. This list should include your successes and achievements, and your positive traits and qualities. The more you practice liking and accepting yourself, the more things you'll be able to add to the list.

* Surround yourself with people who are loving and accepting. Don't let yourself get dragged down by the negative attitudes of others. Your true friends will like you the way you are.

* Take care of yourself. Give yourself the care and attention you deserve, whether that means breaking a few bad habits, paying more attention to your physical health and appearance, or taking a break with some relaxing time alone.

* Do what you love. Find a way that you can shine, using your strengths and talents to the best of your abilities. Pursuing activities that you're good at is one of the best ways to build self-confidence!

High self-esteem is a powerful motivator and an important predictor of future success. You can get started improving your self-esteem today.

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Comment by Joyce C. Mills, Ph.D. on June 24, 2009 at 4:08pm: Self Esteem is at the heart of all success. I offer it in this way: WINGS - A Gift of Self Appreciation - Wisdom - Inspiration - Nurturance - Guidance - Self, When we combine all of these gifts, we can achieve the success we wish to achieve in life. Wisdom - sharing what is lived in Life, not only learned from books.
Inspiration - imparting a “you can do it” attitude.
Nurturing - feeding the Soul by supporting visions, dreams, goals.
Guidance - providing a pathway for curiosity and discovery.

Comment by Mark Mistretta on June 24, 2009 at 4:07pm: Self esteem is important in being successful definately, because with high self esteem comes self confidence. Most people, especially management and potential customers, can tell when a person has confidence and high self esteem and that is a very sought after quality!!

Comment by Dave Alvarado on June 24, 2009 at 4:07pm: 110% !! You need to believe in yourself if you want accomplish ANYTHING. Take a look at the people on skid row...I'm sure at some point they all had jobs, an income, a family...and then something happened to take it all away...and the reason they're still there is because they lost faith in themselves, they lost their self-esteem

Comment by Beverly Zerbian on June 24, 2009 at 4:04pm: There is no question that self esteem plays a role in success. I have been married twice. Neither one of my husbands have had a good self esteem. It's very hard to get someone to believe in themself and make them feel they can do it, if they just put their mind to it.

Comment by Keith on June 24, 2009 at 4:02pm: Self Esteem, without a doubt! Have a great day everyone. It is a nice one here on the lake in Michigan!