Do you think Self Esteem Plays a Role in Success?

I wanted to share some insights from one of the audio lessons from a tremendous new mentor and mastermind for me named Bill Bartmann "The Billionaire Business Coach". He is the only self made Billionaire with a B who has exclusively devoted his life to teaching others. With that kind of a resume, I thought it would be worthwhile to listen to what he has to say on my iLearningGlobal audio library. He also has some great HD video's as well. I absolutely love his teaching style as well as his content is amazing and extremely insightful! Bill is only one of the many "rich" resources within iLearningGlobal (ILG). For today's post and wanted to share with you some of my insights on his lesson on self esteem and how that effects how we process information and how that relates to some other great lessons from by dear friend Bela and her tremendous book "A Bella Life" and of course the "The Go-Giver " by Bob Burg and John David Mann.

First, let's look at the "4 Laws of Self Esteem": as related by Bill Bartmann

1. There is a principle of survival
2. The subconscious mind is stronger than the conscious mind.
3. Our subconscious will not let us do something it thinks we are incapable of doing.
4. Our subconscious will either help us or hinder us based on the information it retrieves.

The next law I'd like to share is from "The Go-Giver". The 4th Law of Stratospheric Success is the Law of Authenticity: "The most valuable gift you have to offer is yourself."

Finally I'd like to share a truly inspiring quote from Bela's book, "A Bella Life."

"Think about a dark room. The minute any little bit of light is brought in, the room is no longer dark - the light overpowers the darkness. I want you to choose light, not darkness. I want the beautiful pure light within all of us to spread through the universe creating an abundance of love, happiness, kindness, and peace for all - creating a bright bella life for everyone!"

I'm blessed to have each of these tremendous people in my life as a mentor and feel like I "know" them all either through facebook, phone discussions or the power of ILG. It struck me that the common thread between all of these is our emotional personal intention and how that relates to what it directs our subconscious mind to think and therefore do. Have you ever heard a song on the radio and instantly you're transported back in time to an event that you had linked this song with or "assigned" a memory to it? Its very powerful! It could have been 20 years ago and yet in that moment, you are instantly engulfed in that moment again...you remember what you were wearing, the scent of his or her perfume/cologne, the emotions that you felt...good or bad. I know I have several songs like that for me.

Then it hit me after listening to Bill's lesson, I remember these things so vividly because I first chose to assign a meaning to it for the good or bad..(light or dark). I then allowed this raw emotion of what I believe to be my true authentic self to add power to the meaning of this event. Ultimately as a result of this "emotional programming", my subconscious mind takes over and tells me how to interpret future events based on its immediate retrieval of this assigned emotional meaning.

Even if an event occurs that is one that you'd normally interpret as negative, if your positive intention is emotionally authentic , even though you don't necessarily "feel" it, eventually your subconscious will accept it as "true" for the ultimate good because that's how you've reprogrammed it to be. Ever hear the quote "Whether you think you can or you think you can't you're right?" I know this to be true more than ever! Whew, that's deep! Being the Pisces that I am, I'm very in touch with my emotions. I've been pondering how do I use this insight for my ultimate good and growth and positive impact on others. Here's what I've concluded with this end goal in mind: If I want to continually grow and advance, I must purposefully choose to assign a positive emotional meaning to each event so that I can be sure that the programming being sent to my subconscious mind will result in the desired answer/action I'm looking for. ..or as in the words of Obama, "Yes we can!!!" There is definitely something to that :)

I encourage us all to pay more attention to the messages that we allow ourselves to accept as true and what meaning we choose to assign to them and how that in turn determines what we believe is our ultimate power to accomplish what our mind conceives. We can't accomplish "big" things if we don't allow ourselves to think big! Now that's powerful!

"No one can make you feel inferior without your permission." Eleanor Roosevelt

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Comment by Imelda Maguire on June 25, 2009 at 11:16pm: At this point in life all I can say is I choose not to think about whether I can or can not, instead I am just so grateful to have something to contribute to with good and positive intention and attention that life has become a beautiful surprise every day.

How can one not smile in complete fullfillment?

~*LOVE ALWAYS*~

Comment by Ronald Colvin on June 25, 2009 at 10:24pm: After reading some of the comments I could take a little here and a little there and you would have the secret to success. To me I look at money as if you have it or you don,t, the problem is that when a person makes the big money 90% turn into mindless people and forgets where they came from. So look at your life and you see if you made it with self esteem or good old fashion hard work. To each to there own and I pray that you give back to those who need a helping hand. To Your Best: Ronald Colvin.

Comment by Marilyn Shannon on June 25, 2009 at 6:00pm: I heard once that there wasn't light and dark, there was only shades of light. It is all in how we look at it. We seem to make life way to difficult. We are all working at life and there is so much beauty around us.

Comment by Sandy Falagan on June 25, 2009 at 1:25pm: Amy, Thank you for introding this mort important topic. I see people everyday with low self esteem, and it hurts me to think of how much they are losing out. Every day is a gift, and
each of needs to keep our self esteem healthy to make the most it. I like what Kevin Costner said in "The Bodyguar": You can be as you choose to be. It's an act of discipline sometimes, but it can be done.

Comment by Michael David Lawrience on June 25, 2009 at 1:19pm: I have taught for over two years an ongoing three month "Claiming Your Self-Esteem" weekly group to teenagers 14-17. Over 80 % of the group of varying degrees of low esteem, as well as codependent behaviors. By learning to recognize and change their critical self-talk, they have an opportunity to change their subconscious to more positive.

Comment by James Bryant on June 25, 2009 at 12:16pm: Without a doubt self esteem is important to the amount of success you may encounter. You are the face of your business and depending on how you present same will in alot of ways determine the amount of success you have. Stay focused, motivated and God bless!

Comment by Steve Allen on June 25, 2009 at 11:38am: I certainly feel self-esteem is a critical factor in whether an individual achieves success or fails. The sad part is, after a certain amount of failure, the sub-conscious is so conditioned and programmed by the trauma and the combined weight of the failures experienced, it finally becomes "hard-wired" in failure mode. Like a giant mental black hole, all hopes and dreams of success or a better life get inexorably sucked down into the depths of the vortex. At this point, no matter how hard the individual may try to succeed they are doomed to experience the endlessly recurring fate of defeat and failure. You young people won't be able to comprehend that, which is a good thing! Just know that the "black hole" does exist and avoid it at all costs.

Comment by Linda Belles on June 25, 2009 at 10:14am: The way your truly feel about yourself is the only thing that counts. Whatever you believe is what you see reflected back to you from your environment.Most people have conflicting (misaligned) beliefs about themselves. So they get a little of this and a little of that. When they do succeed it is from assertion and struggle. There is a better way. Be Aware! Quiet the mind. Realize you create those thoughts, face your resistance and release it. Trying to manage your thoughts is hard work and your missing the feeling of how you really feel about yourself.We must face ourselves and shift our attention from the old beliefs to newer more empowering ones. Being aware of yourself is the most effective way of really knowing how we operate and what our beliefs are. This is beyond the mind. After all if you had the answers you probably wouldn't be reading this.

Comment by Dr. Ellie Izzo on June 25, 2009 at 9:12am: The self esteem thing is so overrated. When a person is centered, they don't even think about self esteem. The over-focus on self-esteem has done nothing more than contribute to a narcissistic and addictive society. Guess what? It doesn't matter what you think about yourself. In fact, try to think NOTHING about yourself. Instead, work to connect to your higher mind or spiritual perspective so that you can tap into your creative gifts and talents to be of service to others.

Comment by Dr. Ellie Izzo on June 25, 2009 at 9:07am: When a person is truly centered, they don't even consider self esteem. What others consider to be "low self-esteem" is more likely a lack of connection to the higher brain or spiritual perspective.The self esteem thing has unfortunately contributed to a very narcissistic and addictive society. Guess what? It doesn't matter what you think of yourself; don't even waste time ruminating about it. Just think about how you can connect to your higher mind to use your creative gifts and talents to serve others!