Do you think Self Esteem Plays a Role in Success?

I wanted to share some insights from one of the audio lessons from a tremendous new mentor and mastermind for me named Bill Bartmann "The Billionaire Business Coach". He is the only self made Billionaire with a B who has exclusively devoted his life to teaching others. With that kind of a resume, I thought it would be worthwhile to listen to what he has to say on my iLearningGlobal audio library. He also has some great HD video's as well. I absolutely love his teaching style as well as his content is amazing and extremely insightful! Bill is only one of the many "rich" resources within iLearningGlobal (ILG). For today's post and wanted to share with you some of my insights on his lesson on self esteem and how that effects how we process information and how that relates to some other great lessons from by dear friend Bela and her tremendous book "A Bella Life" and of course the "The Go-Giver " by Bob Burg and John David Mann.

First, let's look at the "4 Laws of Self Esteem": as related by Bill Bartmann

1. There is a principle of survival
2. The subconscious mind is stronger than the conscious mind.
3. Our subconscious will not let us do something it thinks we are incapable of doing.
4. Our subconscious will either help us or hinder us based on the information it retrieves.

The next law I'd like to share is from "The Go-Giver". The 4th Law of Stratospheric Success is the Law of Authenticity: "The most valuable gift you have to offer is yourself."

Finally I'd like to share a truly inspiring quote from Bela's book, "A Bella Life."

"Think about a dark room. The minute any little bit of light is brought in, the room is no longer dark - the light overpowers the darkness. I want you to choose light, not darkness. I want the beautiful pure light within all of us to spread through the universe creating an abundance of love, happiness, kindness, and peace for all - creating a bright bella life for everyone!"

I'm blessed to have each of these tremendous people in my life as a mentor and feel like I "know" them all either through facebook, phone discussions or the power of ILG. It struck me that the common thread between all of these is our emotional personal intention and how that relates to what it directs our subconscious mind to think and therefore do. Have you ever heard a song on the radio and instantly you're transported back in time to an event that you had linked this song with or "assigned" a memory to it? Its very powerful! It could have been 20 years ago and yet in that moment, you are instantly engulfed in that moment again...you remember what you were wearing, the scent of his or her perfume/cologne, the emotions that you felt...good or bad. I know I have several songs like that for me.

Then it hit me after listening to Bill's lesson, I remember these things so vividly because I first chose to assign a meaning to it for the good or bad..(light or dark). I then allowed this raw emotion of what I believe to be my true authentic self to add power to the meaning of this event. Ultimately as a result of this "emotional programming", my subconscious mind takes over and tells me how to interpret future events based on its immediate retrieval of this assigned emotional meaning.

Even if an event occurs that is one that you'd normally interpret as negative, if your positive intention is emotionally authentic , even though you don't necessarily "feel" it, eventually your subconscious will accept it as "true" for the ultimate good because that's how you've reprogrammed it to be. Ever hear the quote "Whether you think you can or you think you can't you're right?" I know this to be true more than ever! Whew, that's deep! Being the Pisces that I am, I'm very in touch with my emotions. I've been pondering how do I use this insight for my ultimate good and growth and positive impact on others. Here's what I've concluded with this end goal in mind: If I want to continually grow and advance, I must purposefully choose to assign a positive emotional meaning to each event so that I can be sure that the programming being sent to my subconscious mind will result in the desired answer/action I'm looking for. ..or as in the words of Obama, "Yes we can!!!" There is definitely something to that :)

I encourage us all to pay more attention to the messages that we allow ourselves to accept as true and what meaning we choose to assign to them and how that in turn determines what we believe is our ultimate power to accomplish what our mind conceives. We can't accomplish "big" things if we don't allow ourselves to think big! Now that's powerful!

"No one can make you feel inferior without your permission." Eleanor Roosevelt

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Comment by Laron on June 25, 2009 at 8:59am: Self esteem is very important. You have to believe in yourself before others will. If you are not confident about your abilities then why should someone have confidence in you?

Comment by Marsha McKinney on June 25, 2009 at 7:51am: Each day brings new challenges in the world we are living in. When we put our feet on the floor each day we need to say "today is going to be a great day". I believe self-esteem is important because we have to believe that we can make a difference each day in the lives of people we come in contact with. So many people need to see that we believe in ourselves and when we do believe then they can believe in us and this helps both them and us. My life's verse has always been "I can do all things through Christ who gives me the strength". I work with alot of sad people because they are loosing their homes and I am trying to do everything I can to help them avoid foreclosure. Without this inner strength we do not have much to offer others. Our daily business and purpose should be to reach out and make a difference in other people's lives. When we do this we build our own self-esteem and help others believe in themselves also. Self confidence always transfers in a positive way to those who are needing it. However, we do not need to appear to be self-righteous and better than anyone else because to me that shows lack of self-esteem. Without self-belief everything that attacks you will keep you from reaching your goals. Always be true to yourself and treat others as you want to be treated and the rest will take care of itself. Many great successful people have followed this formula.

Comment by Sergio Bendana on June 25, 2009 at 7:23am: One of my top mentors James Ray said “We form our Paradigms… then our Paradigms form us”, we must constantly plant new seeds (powerful & positive thoughts) into our subconscious mind and let them grow, you will eventually be rewarded. Feed your brain with positive affirmations on a daily basis, you can find great ones on the internet. I highly recommend you to not just read but study “Secrets Of The Millionaire Mind” by T. Harv Eker, this is a great book.

In a movie called “The Edge” where Anthony Hopkins is fighting for survival in the wilderness after a plane crash told a Alec Baldwin (the other survivor), “What one man can do… another man can do”. So let’s not reinvent the wheel, let’s copy the wheel, let’s study successful people and do what they do, let’s re-program our driving engine our “subconscious mind” by planting positive, powerful thoughts into our mind.

Thank you Amy for sharing this information with us as well as the wonderful iLearningGlobal website.

Comment by H R Ingram III on June 25, 2009 at 7:20am: To the original question: two words; most definitely!
All the rest is just how-to-get-yours and there's a thousand o' those.
:o)
RD

Comment by Paradise on June 25, 2009 at 6:57am: Yes, self-esteem is very important in being successful in business. You must have confidence in who you are, as well as the services and/or product you provide because sometimes opportunities for growth may be a long time coming. You may hear a lot of "NOs" and "Not Interested" and events where only 3 or 4 people appear instead of the 50 you wanted. Your self-esteem plays in part on whether you will stay on the horse and ride it out or get off and tuck your tail between your legs and walk away... Even when no one else believes in you, you have to believe in yourself!

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Comment by Dr Ana Garcia PhD on June 25, 2009 at 5:47am: Self esteem is the basis of any relationship, starting with your own. A part of success is based on networking, knowing the right people at the right places, connecting with others in ways beneficial to both. Life is a obstacle race and low self-esteem is the first thing that will make you give up when then going gets tough. Alternatively, trying to compensate for low self-esteem will push you so hard that you will make soul-compromises and leave part of your heart on the way. Either way, for a successful family and business life, self-esteem is a core foundation that needs to be nurtured and worked on on a regular basis, especially if we start the race way back behind the starting line.

Comment by Rebecca Beasley on June 25, 2009 at 5:46am: Without a strong sense of self you can't very well be successful in business because there are barriers you have to overcome and a person with low self esteem is unlikely to put forth the effort and have the persistence to keep going when things get rough. Or they will give up or blame themselves for their many failures.

Comment by Rebecca Beasley on June 25, 2009 at 5:40am: You've got to have a strong sense of who you are to achieve success in any area of life.
If you have low self esteem you're not likely to believe in yourself enough to make any effort
or your effort will be short-lived. You've got to be able to overcome barriers to success. And it takes a strong sense of self to do that. You have to believe in your own abilities before you can help someone else to believe in theirs, and without that you can't build a business.

Comment by Catherine on June 25, 2009 at 4:11am: Yes, self esteem is very important. When you remember that we have a GREAT heavenly father who is the King of Kings ... we are therefore his princes and princesses, so why should be have anything less than great self esteem and confidence. We are loved beyond measure!
Be Blessed

Comment by Konrad Fischer on June 25, 2009 at 3:58am: @ Warren Contreras: "Psychobabble" & Rick Hendershot: "Psychological mumbo jumbo" - Brilliant comment to such awesome truism. And how would we develop our skills without self doubting every day? What's the real base of all our self programmed esteem? Egocentrism? Selfishness? Who will donate us estimation and why? Being humble can also create success in life, isn't it? Yes, we can, yes we can - but what? Never noticed the Obamaism hype and all the Obama lies? Listen Alex Jones ...

My best regards

Konrad
A sceptic German