Working moms vs Stay at Home Moms!
I watched Dr. Phil the other day and this was his topic! Wow!
I couldn't believe how strongly against working moms, some of the stay at home moms were. Well, probably just one in particular. She shared that staying at home was the 'be all' for moms, and anyone who chose any differently should be ashamed!
Now, I love my children (4 natural and 2 stepsons), but I distinctly remember when my oldest ones were 4 1/2 and 6 mths old my thoughts and feelings.
I'm a smart person who's life revolved around changing diapers, potty training, cleaning up puke...and although I love my life the question kept nagging "Is this really all I'm meant to do???"
Entered my first business, and the need for ADULT conversation.
I chose a Home Party Plan biz because of two factors: I chose when I worked & it enabled me to be at home as much as possible for my kids!
I loved getting 'dressed up' and talking to a 'few adults'...without having to intervene in between toddlers fighting over a toy, who's feelings were hurt and the many things we moms take on.
What a gift I thought I had been given. Even better, I left for most of my shows at 6:30 and my kids went to bed. So, on top of making a great income....yup in the 6 digits people...I did around 12 shows per month and since my kids went to bed at 7 I only missed 1 1/2 hours of their awake time.
Plus here were some great benefits of having my own business:
* Getting out with other moms/women
* Being the center of attention (ha ha not really, but I just wanted to see if ya were really reading)
* Definitely more $$; in fact, I was soon making more than my ex...who at the time resented that..oh well
* Great tax savings! It's true, when you have your own home business, you get a tonne of tax breaks!
* I felt like a woman! (to quote Shania)
* Plus my kids NEVER saw the inside of a daycare
If someone years ago had JUDGED me based on my decisions, I would've felt very very sad.
After all, what I have learned the most is that being a Happy mom is truly the best gift I could ever give to my children!!!!
Speak up moms, let's hear your side!
Sincerely
Jody In Beautiful BC
Jody Maley is Motivational Speaker & Trainer, mom of six,retired entrepeneur, ToastMaster, Queen of the Home Party Plan Biz!
http://www.DesignedforDivineDestinations.com
"Where its not just about the Destination, it's the Journey to Get there!"
I couldn't believe how strongly against working moms, some of the stay at home moms were. Well, probably just one in particular. She shared that staying at home was the 'be all' for moms, and anyone who chose any differently should be ashamed!
Now, I love my children (4 natural and 2 stepsons), but I distinctly remember when my oldest ones were 4 1/2 and 6 mths old my thoughts and feelings.
I'm a smart person who's life revolved around changing diapers, potty training, cleaning up puke...and although I love my life the question kept nagging "Is this really all I'm meant to do???"
Entered my first business, and the need for ADULT conversation.
I chose a Home Party Plan biz because of two factors: I chose when I worked & it enabled me to be at home as much as possible for my kids!
I loved getting 'dressed up' and talking to a 'few adults'...without having to intervene in between toddlers fighting over a toy, who's feelings were hurt and the many things we moms take on.
What a gift I thought I had been given. Even better, I left for most of my shows at 6:30 and my kids went to bed. So, on top of making a great income....yup in the 6 digits people...I did around 12 shows per month and since my kids went to bed at 7 I only missed 1 1/2 hours of their awake time.
Plus here were some great benefits of having my own business:
* Getting out with other moms/women
* Being the center of attention (ha ha not really, but I just wanted to see if ya were really reading)
* Definitely more $$; in fact, I was soon making more than my ex...who at the time resented that..oh well
* Great tax savings! It's true, when you have your own home business, you get a tonne of tax breaks!
* I felt like a woman! (to quote Shania)
* Plus my kids NEVER saw the inside of a daycare
If someone years ago had JUDGED me based on my decisions, I would've felt very very sad.
After all, what I have learned the most is that being a Happy mom is truly the best gift I could ever give to my children!!!!
Speak up moms, let's hear your side!
Sincerely
Jody In Beautiful BC
Jody Maley is Motivational Speaker & Trainer, mom of six,retired entrepeneur, ToastMaster, Queen of the Home Party Plan Biz!
http://www.DesignedforDivineDestinations.com
"Where its not just about the Destination, it's the Journey to Get there!"
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Comment by JOdy on October 18, 2009 at 2:46pm
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Thanks so much for that comment Peter!
I truly agree...Life and choices made are there for the parents. My kids are more happy and adjusted cause I am happy and adjusted.
Jody In Beautiful BC
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Comment by Peter Diprose on October 16, 2009 at 11:41pm - that's a great post Jody, sad isn't it there should even be a stereotypical "stay-at-home" mom or that there should be any disagreement or dissention regarding a right or wrong to the issue. It's equally sad I think that so much of the daytime media shows - Dr Phil, Jerry Springer etc - seem to derive so much in terms of ratings from the more vicarious aspects of the views aired. They would have us all believe that the world is full of - apologies for the term - "trailer trash" or that, at the very least, we should all be grateful that we do not fall into that category but it's okay to snigger at them from behind the safety of the TV screen. At a time when there are so many opportunities for people - moms and dads alike - to work from home and in many cases generate enough income to live comfortably on, it's a pity that there aren't more examples aired like your own. You are so right in what you say - it is not wrong to question your role when you're up to your armpits in screaming kids and smelly diapers. You are after all by that time an adult (unless you're from Tennesse - just kidding ;-}) and hopefully are in a better position to reach your potential and achieve true happiness. Time to stop focussing on the negatives - I don't have it (lifestyle / health / happiness / whatever) therefore anyone that does have it got it by being sneaky or devious and doesn't deserve it - and focus on the positives in life. Life is good, enjoy it, the choices are yours. All you have to do is chose them.
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